There are instances when your relationship hits the rocks and is on the verge on breaking. This is a difficult phase and at times is one of the roughest ones in your life to pass. You keep on hoping and praying that things will change and get better for the best. However, it does not work. The longer you spend time thinking, the faster your loved one is drifting away from you. You feel lost and alone. Nothing helps to bring him/her closer to you.
Talk and see the wonders it can do
Yes, communication helps you to save a falling relationship. Open communication completely honest and direct. However, when you are talking with your loved one, there are certain things that you should keep in mind. Talking or communication does not mean that you have to go up to your loved one and instantly demand to talk. There are ways and they have been listed below:
· Time: The time of the conversation needs to be conducive for both of you. You should discuss with your partner and tell him/her that you wish to talk and resolve the issues in the relationship. You loved one may be surprised if you have never done this before. However, explain to him/her that you wish to have one conversation before a final decision is made. The time for talking should be such when both of you are relaxed. It is really hard for you to talk and your loved one may also feel the same. However, it is worth the shot and important for both of you to save your relationship. The magic of making up.
· Place: When you have decided to talk and your loved one has agreed, go to your favourite place. The place can be anywhere. You can go to a coffee shop, a restaurant, a beach, the mountains, park etc. Go to the place where both of you will be comfortable. The trick is to be at ease and speak your heart out.
· Listen: This is the most difficult part in the communication process. When you are talking to the other person, you wish to get your views and points across. This is wrong. Allow the other person to talk. Listen carefully and attentively. There can be instances where you have been too busy. You may be too engrossed with phones and laptops to pay attention. These may be small things to you but they create a huge vacuum in a relationship. When you listen, you tend to come across things you may not have discovered or even known before. It is here that you have to keep the points in mind. I want my husband back.
· Do not be defensive: If you wish your loved one to come back, always remember not to be defensive. There are times when you will feel it is not your fault. However, you must place your views across in a logical manner. In this way, your loved one will understand you care and high chances are you will be back together again!